tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174183672024-03-13T11:00:24.983-04:00DebLiteThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.comBlogger323125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-85571736755255919082024-01-23T05:35:00.000-05:002024-01-23T05:35:16.730-05:00Older, Wiser (Maybe), I'm Back And just like that. I'm back.It's been a time. When last I left you, we were mid- pandemic. I had taken custody of two children and my daughter had moved back back home. College Arabella turned Actor Arabella is now Actor in Grad School Arabella. We're just gonna call her GradSchoolArabella.LilMan and Baby are now Preteen and Destructo. They live a cat and dog life but they ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-38740652654156170292020-11-23T08:21:00.001-05:002020-11-23T11:07:11.068-05:0011 of 39
I'm not one to gossip, but this Page Six list of 2020's Biggest Celebrity Break ups is the must-read retrospective you didn't know you needed. Always a plus, it's a list you can scroll through instead of a tedious and never ending slideshow.The usual suspects are all there from Miley Cyrus to Chris Rock, but I can't believe I'm the only one who's old enough that many of them are head ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-67154491989867827482020-08-16T14:51:00.001-04:002020-08-16T14:51:55.201-04:00The White Supremacy of Donald Trump
While we're arguing about whether Kamala Harris is black or whether Biden is the perfect candidate, there's another discussion that needs to be had:Of course I'm taking about the hatred and racism that makes Trump possible. It's the "elephant" in the room and it's long past time we had this talk. Republicans are not just trying to have a "one party" government, they want a ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-4154325954200836242020-07-19T13:11:00.000-04:002020-07-19T13:31:37.302-04:00White People Are Making The Argument For Slavery
I have seen the ugliest ideas about black people spread on the Internet. The idea of a return to Enslavement was dog-whistled by Trump recently. I've seen everything from a white woman casually wondering if Trump was going to reboot slavery because she could use a maid, to young white men just wanting to get rid of all black people and referring to black people as "outmoded farm ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-80146798126937681652020-07-11T09:58:00.001-04:002020-07-11T10:12:05.677-04:00No School: Coronavirus
Trump, Pence, and McConnell have their idiot education shill Betsy DeVos pushing full time school with no distance learning at all.I think a lot of states will ignore that and go for distance learning but we already know it's a stretch for parents to work full time and help monitor their children's studies.Many people seem to live in some magical universe where parents are free ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-2614866927822541332020-06-18T13:33:00.001-04:002020-06-18T13:33:53.841-04:00ProvisioningI've been in quarantine so long, I finally ordered some stuff on the Internet.It's the beginning of things I need for a larger project. And some things I just want. And some toys for the kids because their action figures have taken a beating from heavy play rotation over the past three months. Batman has no legs. Robin only has one. All the Ninja Turtles have some sort of war injury. We need someThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-83536496058783046552020-05-26T10:45:00.001-04:002020-05-26T10:45:05.343-04:00The Phrase That Pays
Let's talk about that sentence today: I am not a racist.Boy howdy, is that a loaded phrase. More than likely if some white person had been reduced to uttering this sentence it's because they have said or done something so racist that the only thing they can do is pathetically assure everyone that what they said and did is an aberration, but no one should possibly believe that's who ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-33637853306653419722020-05-12T17:16:00.001-04:002020-05-12T17:16:06.946-04:00Quarantine DreamsMy Quarantine dreams are vividly realistic. Sometimes they're about things I've never done nevertheless my dreams during this time contain a level of detail that is startling.I have never ridden a tractor in my life. But today I dreamed I was riding a tractor through a burnished wheat field. I could feel the wheat brush my legs and see the chaff flying through the air. I could smell the scent of ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-30531143317141719862020-05-06T22:19:00.001-04:002020-05-07T15:09:01.861-04:00Social Distancing
There was a girl I knew back in elementary schoolShe was a year or two ahead of meAlways pretty and smartWe were never quite friendsBut we were definitely never enemiesShe was the older girl I admiredAnd I was that kidHer teacher's kidYou know how it isShe advertised that she was making face masks onlineAnd I contacted herAnd she delivered them to my house todayAnd we stood there ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-26287217696228935102020-05-02T13:44:00.001-04:002020-05-02T13:44:53.672-04:00At The End of The InternetI spend an ungodly amount of time online. I'm one of those Mom's whether my kids comes and takes the phone out of my hand and demands a hug. Despite the fact that I know the details of the consistency of his poop (we're coming to the end of potty training, thank goodness) the littlest one has the idea that I don't pay him enough attention (I do) and that I love my phone more than him (nah).At anyThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-55380355787671788522020-05-02T08:38:00.001-04:002020-05-02T10:25:43.168-04:00Biting My Tongue
The biggest problem with Facebook and Twitter is that the people who run those sites actively dislike black people in general and black women in general.Following this post you will find links to several articles from varying perspectives written at different times. Try all come to the same conclusion: Social Media works overtime at silencing black people who speak up about the ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-52626993756582508092018-12-15T02:49:00.001-05:002018-12-15T08:06:06.931-05:00Three Years Later“Deborah, I'm coughing and my throat hurts.”
I should have and could have been sympathetic, but even on a night where I was aroused from a sound sleep by a sick and frightened child, I was indignant in the way that only mothers can be. Just when children expect sympathy they get a lecture. Lil Man was about to get the lecture of lifetime and one he would never forget.
“If you would zip up your ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-6319986956479857082016-08-12T13:49:00.001-04:002016-08-13T08:12:02.256-04:00Louisa May Alcott Challenge Semi-AcceptedHi ya'll.
I'm off work today and it's simply lovely to indulge in the luxury of literary fun and conversation.
A few months ago, I discovered an absolutely scrumptious literary blog called Relevant Obscurity. I can't even begin to explain how I love to sit down with a cup of just about anything and read this blog. RO introduced me to the Louisa May Alcott Challenge, which honestly, I was ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-66026510175185009102015-10-03T08:35:00.000-04:002015-10-03T11:40:27.863-04:00Where the Rubber Meets the RoadSometimes our principles and ideals are put to test. This past January I found out exactly where the rubber meets the road, I had to put my money where my mouth is, show and prove and every other cliche you can think of.
Put up or shut up.
So my nephew and his girlfriend both suddenly became unavailable to parent their child. The reasons are not all that uncommon, but suddenly I was faced with ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-61535395077162786302015-08-22T08:23:00.001-04:002015-10-03T11:41:19.131-04:00When Good White People Do Racist ThingsI work with a white woman who is fairly kind. She jumps in wherever she is needed. She has a kind word to say every day to everyone, she is friendly, down to earth and any time I or others have a question she is more than willing to help.
But twice now I've witnessed her doing or saying something racist and I have a strong urge to tell her about it.
The first time, she touched my hair. We were ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-25780028258459178152015-04-25T13:48:00.004-04:002015-04-25T13:50:37.691-04:00Opposing the Cincinnati Streetcar: That Train of Thought Has Left the Station
Until I came across this article on Twitter today, I had no idea that there were still people trying to get the Cincinnati streetcar project canceled? Really? They need to let it go already.
I say this as someone who is really against the streetcar project. It's just another toy to make life easier for the folks who are "gentrifying" downtown. "Gentrifying" is a word used here which ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-17271060544695528452015-04-03T00:41:00.002-04:002015-04-03T00:41:30.892-04:00Pick a SideRepublicans have lost their damned minds. Collectively. It's bad enough every single one of them is reading from the same Koch approved script, but what's worse, is far too many of them are seriously drinking the kool-aid of belief.
I understand why Republicans want power and money. What I don't understand is why the rest of us put up with their bullshit.
Republicans want to take our governmentThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-61155855860375874302015-03-01T10:57:00.003-05:002015-03-01T11:02:06.897-05:00To be continued...It was nearly 1995 before I let go of the 1980's. I had trouble with the 90's aesthetic and attitudes. My role in a new decade as an adult and mother. But when I did finally embrace the 90's it was wholeheartedly.
But embracing any era too closely is a set up for heartbreak. The only thing certain in this world is change and the only choice is to change with the times or stagnate in an era that ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-80862379860297097312014-12-02T09:21:00.003-05:002014-12-02T09:24:41.063-05:00Clown Car: The Republican 2016 Field
Jeb Bush, Chris Christie, Rand Paul, Ted Cruz, John Kasich, Scott
Walker, Mike Pence, Mitt Romney, Rick Perry, Ben Carson, Susana
Martinez, Marco Rubio, Rick Santorum, Bobby Jindal, Carly Fiorina,
George Pataki, John Thune, Lindsey Graham, Donald Trump, Bob Corker,
Mike Huckabee, Peter King, Bob Ehrlich and Paul Ryan.
Check out this Crooks and Liars article about FOX having kittens ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-80733017245027224332014-11-24T08:56:00.001-05:002014-11-24T09:57:15.105-05:00The Narrative of the Oppressed White Man
My last post was about how I've embraced Twitter as a fairly late adopter as is typical for me when it comes to tech, but whole-heartedly nonetheless.
There is a light side to Twitter, but as with all things in life, "Without the darkness, there would be no light."
Twitter's dark side for me is a direct but more aggressive and vocal form of the racism I experience in real life. We all know ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-73824360304771066452014-11-09T10:56:00.000-05:002014-11-09T11:46:07.323-05:00Falling in Love with Twitter
For the longest time I would not have a Facebook account. Not 'didn't have," I mean 'wouldn't have." I had heard a lot about it and it just seemed stupid. But in true DebLite fashion, I always make the opposite argument with myself: Why should I have a Facebook account?
I did a Google search for that very thing and came across an article where a young woman made what I felt was a veryThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-14284353719767979592014-10-13T10:34:00.000-04:002014-10-13T11:18:41.834-04:00Ohio November 2014 Ballot Information - Candidates and Local Issues
Check out the League of Women Voters site for your state to get local candidate & issues information!
It's mid-October and it's long past time I educated myself on all the candidates who are running
this November, not just the Governor's race and a few other familiar candidates for office.
The sad part is that it took a very bad a campaign commercial to
make me realize ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-46606599866296412202014-10-11T08:40:00.000-04:002014-10-11T08:45:05.827-04:00Making the Case for Reparations - Blackness as a Financial LiabilityI've never really given much thought to black people being given reparations for slavery, or the Jim Crow despite having family members who lived during both eras.
Ta-Nehisi Coates has taken a lot of heat for his article that does make the case for reparations to black people, not only for slavery but for the discrimination we endure to this day. He does so in a matter of fact manner that does ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-9758897494355443222014-06-19T08:23:00.001-04:002014-06-19T08:25:05.830-04:00Racism is the new Four Letter WordI shocked a black woman yesterday by telling her that occasionally I blog about racism.
She visibly startled, as if I had said "boo". But as I spoke, she quickly recovered and shook her head in agreement that yes, racism is an issue that still needs to be addressed.
But I realized, I had struck a nerve.
I spend a lot of time on the internet so I'm used to the denial and outright anger ThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17418367.post-53246434061321237912014-06-12T10:46:00.002-04:002014-06-12T10:50:16.854-04:00GOP: You Created This Mess. Fix It.
Prisoner DealPosted on Jun 8, 2014Adam Zyglis, Cagle Cartoons, The Buffalo News
http://www.truthdig.com/cartoon/item/prisoner_deal_20140608
Once, in the bad old days of politics, we could always count on Republicans to parrot the wrong side of an issue but do the right thing for America as a whole. Slowly and in their own time, sometimes dragged kicking and screaming, but eventually, theyThatDeborahGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02235918238595525061noreply@blogger.com0